Love is freedom fueled by trust. But understanding? No, to understand is to attempt to control. I try to understand you. You try to understand me. Eventually we try to control each other.

I thought of the perfect relationship with a girl, once. What if I found someone, and we agreed that we couldn't... wouldn't try understand each other, no matter how hard we wanted to. And that we would just love each other. Outside of that - only freedom and trust.

Then I thought of you.

I didn't know that it would hurt you. I didn't know that for you to love, you would need understanding. I didn't know that, to keep from hurting you, I would need to understand you .

It was a stupid idea.

It doesn't make sense to say goodbye before we've even said hello, but if I could, I would say goodbye to you now. Not in a bad way, but in the way that friends say goodbye, hoping to see each other again but knowing that they probably won't, somehow knowing that their time is over.

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